Boys will be Boys
"Boys will be boys." It's a phrase I've heard most of my life and I have never really been very certain what the phrase actually meant. I mean I'm not an idiot, I know what people are trying to communicate when they utter those four words, but the reality of such a statement is that they are simply making an excuse for what is normally bad behavior. Dads (moms) why do we set the bar of expectation so low for the greatest commodity that has been given to us? It breaks my heart.
I've shared many times with you the need to watch for teachable moments. As the leader of the household it is our job to instruct our children in the way and manner in which they should walk, and by walk, I mean live. As a parent there are certain things that I expect out of my children and those behaviors are informed by my faith and relationship with my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. It is that relationship that defines my morality and it is that morality by which I expect my children to live - no questions. "Boys will be boys" that is why I must be a Godly father and instruct them in the ways of obedience. Their "flesh" is desiring to do all sorts of crazy, stupid, and physically and spiritually dangerous "things." It is my job and my responsibility to make certain that they do not harm themselves physically, mentally, emotionally, and especially spiritually.
This is the hardest part of being a dad. Many times I must be the example even when I do not wish to be. Our children are always watching us and they are paying close attention to our character, our integrity, as well as our discrepancies. What do your children see when they look at the example you are setting? I pray that my children never see me compromising the things that I hold dear. I pray that my children see me living out my faith before them by the best of my ability and that under the power and authority of God living in and through me. I take great comfort in Psalm 1, where if I can paraphrase and take a few poetic liberties "boys don't have to be boys; but rather, "blessed is the boy who seeks to be a blessing to the Lord His God."
I've shared many times with you the need to watch for teachable moments. As the leader of the household it is our job to instruct our children in the way and manner in which they should walk, and by walk, I mean live. As a parent there are certain things that I expect out of my children and those behaviors are informed by my faith and relationship with my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. It is that relationship that defines my morality and it is that morality by which I expect my children to live - no questions. "Boys will be boys" that is why I must be a Godly father and instruct them in the ways of obedience. Their "flesh" is desiring to do all sorts of crazy, stupid, and physically and spiritually dangerous "things." It is my job and my responsibility to make certain that they do not harm themselves physically, mentally, emotionally, and especially spiritually.
This is the hardest part of being a dad. Many times I must be the example even when I do not wish to be. Our children are always watching us and they are paying close attention to our character, our integrity, as well as our discrepancies. What do your children see when they look at the example you are setting? I pray that my children never see me compromising the things that I hold dear. I pray that my children see me living out my faith before them by the best of my ability and that under the power and authority of God living in and through me. I take great comfort in Psalm 1, where if I can paraphrase and take a few poetic liberties "boys don't have to be boys; but rather, "blessed is the boy who seeks to be a blessing to the Lord His God."
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